Good manners seem to have taken a back-seat, have become considered passé. Many parents are extremely busy with little time for family sit-down meals. Everywhere we see examples where good manners are marginalized. Many parents have told us that they feel guilty or inadequate. Some even say they are embarrassed to have to send their children to etiquette school. We assure them that they are not alone and that manners classes are a great way to provide 3rd party validation. Our training is not as a substitute parent. We help students learn what they need to know to thrive in the real world.
Proper manners can be learned at any age through manners training. Though etiquette varies with culture, good manners are universal and boil down to respect.
Often, the disparity between success and failure is based on understanding and using good manners. Research has established that while we are involved in a communication, body language and mannerism are more important than words. Correspondingly, many people you will encounter will judge you by your actions not your words.
During an interview, many employers already know if they will hire you or not. Companies are increasingly focusing on manners and people skills over technical experience, where ability fails and proper manners succeed. Proper manners and business etiquette help assure progress and promotions in your career of choice. Respect should be accorded to everyone regardless of their social station, financial situation, age or religion.
Social media, cell phones, email and texting are escalating the poor manners trend.
The internet never forgets. unsuitable photos and off color jokes, for example, may be funny today, however this may cause major problems down the road when applying for a job. All positive human relationships are based on mutual respect. Having good manners will earn a young person respect in society both from peers and their elders. Developing good manners will help you practice restraint and self-control avoiding a lot of needless conflict and confrontation in all areas of life. Many people in jail will admit to poor manners and lack of respect being partly to blame for their current situation.
Etiquette, courtesy and good manners are universal. While cultures will vary as to what is appropriate in a given circumstance, good manners will always prevail. Accepting cultural variances gracefully is simply another sign of good manners. No matter where in the world your education or career will take you, having good manners will be vital in gaining respect and acceptance despite language barriers.
Through good manners you are able to convey your respect for others. As the saying goes “people will forget what you say to them, but never how you make them feel.”
Manners should not be a result of a conscious effort in situations where it is deemed necessary, but a way of life instilled through manners training. Respect and good manners will make your life more pleasant and rewarding.
Steve & Marcy Breault
Certified Protocol and Etiquette Consultants