Allow them to Grieve
Allow your friend or family member to grieve. You should not have any expectations regarding the grieving period. Some people tend to grieve longer than others. Let the person grieve their loss without any judgment. It might be frightening or frustrating for you to watch them grieve for long but it is a process and they need time.
Recognize Grief Stages
A grieving person will go through several stages as they try to come into terms with their loss. These stages include:
It is important to note that these stages do not occur in a specific order. Some people may accept their loss and later display anger and denial. Each person experiences grief differently. Familiarize yourself with these stages to prepare yourself to support your family member or friend.
There are various variables that distinguish one person’s grief from another’s. These variables include cause of death, an individual’s resilience, prior grieving experiences and relationship with the dead person. You need to understand these variables because they can change how the person will grieve. Their grief experience may be entirely different from yours. Look at things from their point of view as opposed to your experiences with grief.
The grieving person needs to know that they can be vulnerable in your presence. Avoid telling them about how strong they seem after the loss. They may appear to be coping well with the loss but they also need to express their emotions. It will be difficult for them to grieve properly if they are trying to prove how strong they are.