1. Reduce the noise. In this time and age everyone has their cell phone with them, everywhere. While interacting with other people it is advisable to turn off your phone and if not just put it on silent. Vibrate does not count as silent.
2. Always be polite. Learn to smile often and use kind words such as “Thank you”, “Welcome”, “Nice meeting you” and “Sorry”. They only make interaction easier for you.
3. Act friendly regardless of the situation. Learn to speak in a calm tone and smile often. This is proper in that it makes people see and feel like you are actually genuine in your speech and actions. Most people can sense fake behavior and judge accordingly. Be your polite and calm self.
4. Keep time. It might seem petty but people put a lot of value in their time. It’s best to try as much as possible to never be late. Even if one is late then avoid that miserable “Sorry, I’ll be 20mins late” text. Make a phone call instead.
5. Remove your hat. Never wear a hat inside especially in a restaurant of any type. Even when you are outside, at a football game for example, check to see if your hat is obscuring someone’s view. This simple gesture shows a lot of respect for the other person. Also for a more technologically advanced person, it is also polite to take off your headphones or earphones when talking to other people.
6. Observe table manners. Out of all social encounters, eating may come as one of the most common ones. It is thus important to take note of the basic notes. Don’t speak when your mouth is full, don’t reach out for items on the table, avoid gruesome topics on the table, keep your elbows off the table et cetera.
7. Introduce people to one another. In the event that you are the one who knows the quests take new people around and personally introduce them to others. You will be amazed how grateful these new friends will be. Everyone wants to feel accepted, welcome and that they belong.
8. Allow others go first. In virtually any situation, it is always courteous to let others go first. For instance a pregnant woman at the ATM queue could really use the opportunity. Sometimes circumstances do not allow for this such as when a throng of people is filing through revolving doors. Check it out and make your decision in manner that is safe.
9. Death or illness. Avoid sending out text messages or making irrational phone calls when trying to inform others about someone’s passing. There are accepted behaviors about how to deal with grief. Read this article for more information about grieving.
10. Thank you notes are always in style. A note should be sent within four days maximum and limited to four sentences. See this article for more thank you note etiquette information. These show that you appreciate the effort put into whatever gift or gesture that you received.
11. Avoid unnecessary body gestures. These include wildly swinging your arms or excessive hand waving, picking of one’s nose, pointing, staring or snorting in public. Do not grunt when standing up.
12. Open doors. It is possible in today’s more lax society that some woman may feign offense. If that happens, smile, be polite and say nothing derogatory. Studies show that most women appreciate the courtesy and even find it comforting when gentlemen open and close doors for them.
13. Hold doors open for others. In some situations it’s only nice to hold doors for those entering behind you so that the door doesn’t slam on their faces.
14. Show respect for others. For instance, keep personal space and allow others to speak without interrupting.
15. Avoid swearing. This shows a lack of respect for everyone and shows shallowness in general.
16. Offer help whenever you get the chance. Be it from picking fallen items to cleaning up help is always appreciated.
17. Take RSVPs seriously. If you won’t attend then take the time to actually respond and where the planning is actually serious avoid cancelling last minute.
18. Practice a firm handshake. We have all experienced the “fish hand”. Did you like it? Or did you have an immediate impression of weakness about the person, male of female? Take time to hold and grasp the other persons hand as opposed to just handing out a sloppy fish.
19. Keep hygiene in the washrooms. Avoid fixing make-up, flossing teeth or touching up on your deodorant in a public setting.
20. Avoid arguments in public. People really do not want to be “included” in an argument. Hard as it may be, step away to a quiet area, stay calm and never shout. Yelling antagonizes and escalates the situation. Staying calm can actually deescalate and stop the argument in its tracks.